I was talking to one of my guy friends today about this nice guy I've been texting with lately (I met him online). A week ago, the guy from online had said something which made me wonder if I had been relegated to "friend status." Today, it was clear that I wasn't so I thought I would share this bit of information with my friend. His response, "well that's good but you're not looking for a pen pal." Which all goes back, to his problem with the fact that I've been talking to this guy for like three weeks and still haven't met him.
I didn't realize three weeks was so long. Also, Thanksgiving is also included in those three weeks. And even so, why is there this huge amount of pressure to move so quickly these days? With the internet and advances in technology, sometimes I feel like I'm constantly on fast forward. We want everything NOW NOW NOW. (Note: I'm also guilty of this, I ordered a pair of boot from Amazon--not Prime-- and it took a WHOLE week to get them and it was awful) But sometimes I just want to take things slowly.
I'm not quite comfortable with the whole online dating thing. I told my friend that I'm scared of being raped. His solution: "Don't have dates in dark alleys." Yes, because that's the only place that rape can happen. Once, a friend met a guy from online and he tried to force himself into the car with her when she was leaving. In a parking lot. In the middle of the day. These are the things I fear with online dating. I find that if I "talk" to someone and draw out that talking phase, the guys who aren't genuine tend to lose interest.
I kindly ended this conversation with "Your timeline isn't the only acceptable timeline. Just because my timeline is different, it doesn't make mine wrong." Because in this age of urgency, I'd like to take my time when it comes to getting to know someone. I just want to be certain. It's weird and uncomfortable-- but this is how we date these days.
XOXO
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